Being Held Back

Happy Happy Tuesday! Very rare that you’ll see me post two days in a row but I have something that’s boggling my mind that I want to share with you guys + encourage you all ❤️

One of the things I’m coming to face, which I’m sure some of you can relate, is that we all have goals and dreams that we want to reach, accomplish, achieve; however you want to put it. And at times, we may find ourselves in situations where we are not able to move forward or we don’t feel like we can because of something or someone else. I, like many people, will tell you – YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD.

I won’t go into too much detail but I’ve recently reflected more on what I have done for others versus what others have done for me. I am absolutely the type of person who believes in other people’s dreams, hobbies, interests; basically anything you dream to achieve or what you want to do in general, I’m very supportive and if I could, I’d help you get as far as you can. However, when that times comes and the roles are now reverse, will you be there giving back that same support? 

I’ve got to tell you, my social circle has decreased over the years because of the lack of return in support and just having a genuine relationship with other people. When I say “genuine relationship,” it could be your friends, a boyfriend/girlfriend, your employers/coworkers, your business partners, your whoever that you think you may have built a connection with to help you grow as a person. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t expect it but I definitely have an open to eye to see who returns. I also have people in life that I don’t necessarily talk to everyday but when I see them, it’s like our connection never went away and those are W’s to me.

I have often found myself in situations where I have accommodated to other people and their wants and needs but not in vice versa except for the current relationships I have now or at least most of them. I’ve been feeling a little held back from achieving my own goals because I’m accommodating to someone else’s goals who isn’t really taking the right steps anyways to achieve them. 

But when you turn around and ask them for something in return, tangible or intangible, and they bat an eye or it’s not convenient for them… Take a step back because you don’t deserve that. You care enough about this person and their goals and can accommodate to them but they don’t do it in return, stop because at this point, you’re holding yourself back. 

Now think of this in a bigger group, team-like; could be big or small: everyone in your group, very supportive of each other and you all carry the same weight except for that one person. This is the same person that you have accommodated to and supported their wants and needs but when the rest of the team wants or needs something from them and they decide to turn away because it’s not convenient for them, focus back on you and your team

If this is kind of a situation you have been in and you moved forward without that person, good for you. If you haven’t, take a look yourself – you deserve to move forward, no longer having that person hold you back from you want to do and want to achieve. The things is, this person may be actually a great person and you may always have love for them and that’s awesome. However, remember to have a little compassion for yourself. The compassion we so freely give others because that’s just who we are; we need to bring back on ourselves. Don’t let anyone hold you back or keep you from continuing on and achieving your goals. 

And if that person can’t acknowledge and won’t acknowledge it then so be it. You will come across more people to relate to under these circumstances and have real connections with and I bet those are the people who are you going to hold it down for you and give you the utmost support. 

On that note… Sorry, if I was little aggressive, maybe a little passionate but I’m going through it and I’m taking my own advice and still giving this advice to others. I’m focusing more on me and what I want to do. Less blockade, the better. Let me know what you think. Share your story with me. 

Until the next post,

With love and support,


Relatable + Empathetic (2019)

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