Welcome back Reader and Happy Valentine’s Day to you! ❤️ I hope you’re enjoying this Hallmark holiday whether it be with your significant other, your family, your friends or even by yourself. Ladies, I hope you’re getting flowers, chocolates, a day spa, your nails done, your hair did. My guys! I hope you’re… paying for all of it 😛
I want to give a special thank you to my amazing boyfriend Tony for surprising me with a cute Valentine’s Day card and candy. They were unexpected surprises to be honest but he pulled it off and I seriously could’ve cried because it was just too damn sweet.
On today’s post, I want touch on vulnerability. It was mentioned on a special episode of Nothing to Lose Podcast. If you haven’t heard, go take a listen when you get the chance. It’s Episode 43 – “Couples Therapy 143” where I had to pleasure to join Tony, Joey, and Rianna in discussing relationship topics.
One of the questions that Joey had for myself and Tony was more-or-less whether we have seen each other in a vulnerable state. In honesty, Tony has seen me more in a vulnerable state more than I have him. As I mentioned on the podcast, I had to pull some vulnerability out of Tony. Which to be fair, I think it’s fairly common to see vulnerability within women than men.
So I just want to piggyback on that topic. Being vulnerable can be scary. They say it takes a lot of courage to really bare all when it comes to your heart and how you feel. I am a vulnerable person when it comes to my significant other and especially more now that I am with Tony. Tony is the person I go to when something is wrong; something is good – I bare all feelings to him.
However, I have also been used to not having to rely on someone for comfort when I do reach a vulnerable state. I keep myself up rather than shedding a ton of tears and opening my heart. Some may it say, you don’t get hurt that way so it’s absolutely safe and you should keep it to yourself. But vulnerability can be a challenge.
To let the heart feel and be open can really set you free. Have you seen your significant other in a vulnerable state? Have they seen you? How do they react to that?
I truly believe when you’re vulnerable, you really allow your heart to feel. And to have feelings means you’re alive. You’re self-aware to you, your emotions and your own environment. It’s not easy for some people; I totally get it. As I said, it can be scary. Those who watch you in a vulnerable state may not react the way you would hope. If it’s not a reaction you were hoping for then you may just feel embarrassed which makes harder to continue being vulnerable.
But let me tell you: you should be vulnerable for yourself. Allow yourself to feel what your heart is telling you. It’s okay to not be okay sometimes. It’s also okay to share tears of joy and happiness. It’s however you’re feeling. Do not let how someone react dictate your feelings.
Letting someone see you want them and need them in your life is an absolute respect of love. Don’t be afraid to show who you are to the person you love. They will be there for you. For some of us, the love of our lives are ultimately our best friends and if the love is real, being vulnerable is an acceptance.
Thank your loved ones for allowing you to express how you feel without judgement. Take this Valentine’s Day to let them know how much you appreciate their support; heck – you don’t even need this holiday to do so. Try it tomorrow or the next day or the day after that. Be vulnerable. Be unafraid. Have that amazing courage to just feel.
With that being said, Happy Valentine’s Day Reader. I hope you enjoy the rest of this day!
Until the next post,
With love and support,