Hi Reader! Happy Tuesday! 🙂 I hope you’re enjoying your morning so far and you’re staying as warm as possible. It was hella freezing this morning. I woke up at 3:30am to get ready to go the gym and it was so cold. I got into my car and it said 42 degrees. BRRRR.
It’s an early post day. I ran into some disruptiveness this morning when I was at the gym and I want to share with you guys what had happened.
I wanted to start my workout in the Gx Studio of 24 Hour Fitness and then probably take a Sprint class right after which is, if you haven’t taken it, a HIIT cycling class. According to my instructor, we do not consider it cycling nor RMP so… Sprint.
I walked into the studio and the lights were off. There was another person there before me and she was doing step aerobics and as a courtesy, I checked to see if she wanted to keep the lights off as a part of her workout and she did. I respected that figuring she was close to being done anyways.
So I grabbed a mat, set up my bar, etc. I started working on my core first because laying in the dark sounded more appealing than doing deadlifts in the dark. Haha 😛 It was probably 30 mins in when I noticed the kind lady was done. I had one more set to do and then I was going to turn on the lights.
And then the cleaning lady walked in and she starts cleaning the floor. And mind you, it’s still dark. She decides to go over to the switches, with no warning or trying to get my attention, she turns on the light. I literally pulled myself up and was like “What the…?” She acted as if I wasn’t even there even though I’m literally right by the lights.
So, I was like “Alright, that’s my cue then.” Again out of courtesy, I thought to myself, I’ll just get on the treadmill or something before going to class. So I’m trying to clean up my area and the cleaning lady decided to start cleaning around my stuff while I’m trying to put away the equipment… again as if I wasn’t even there. And as I’m trying to put away the equipment she would step in my way or maybe I got her way?… The point is, I didn’t exist to her.
At that point, her demeanor was “This is my territory, get out.” So that’s exactly what I did. She was absolutely rude and you know what? I even tried to give her smile because that’s my absolute norm to do when I see a stranger. I said “excuse me” and nothing – looked right through me. Now, it doesn’t seem like it’s that big of a deal and perhaps it’s not. But it’s the fact that I’m being as courteous and respectful as I can be and there are people who are just plain rude.
They say with non-verbal communication, it is 55% body language, 38% tone, and 7% words actually spoken. And this morning I got the full 100% body language that said “Get out.”
My workout was disrupted and I was frustrated. I suppose I could’ve stayed around to workout elsewhere but I’m not the type of person that can workout to let go of frustration or at least not for this morning. It’s the start of the day and I wanted to be in good spirits. I told myself I would just come back after work and get a better workout then.
I could’ve easily confronted her but instead I killed her with kindness by giving her a smile and maintaining good manners. I told Tony about this earlier and he jokingly said that I should’ve turned off the lights when I walked out. I told him I wouldn’t stoop down to that level of petty because it’s not even worth it.
I chose to be frustrated this morning and I chose to walk out of that gym to turn my frustration into good spirits because damn it! It is too freaking early to be upset in the day by rude ass people!
I realized I’m very self-aware of my actions and how exert my body language onto others. I can be courteous to the person with hopes that someone would be courteous back to me but sometimes you run into a couple of those bad apples that don’t have respect or courteous for others.
You know what it’s also crazy? I came up with reasons/excuses for this lady and her actions because I’m an empathetic person. I was thinking maybe she just didn’t want to be there that early in the morning to clean. Maybe she has something going on in her life. Maybe she just wants to do her job. A lot of different reasons I can come up with but I don’t think it excuses her from being rude overall.
You’ll always come across a few rude people in your life; could be strangers or could be someone you know. You have the ability to be the bigger person. If you’re genuinely a nice person who is respectful, stay that way no matter what situation may come to.
We should never rude people get the best of us. Be kind no matter what.
I hope you could relate to this experience in some way. I appreciate all of you for reading about my morning and I thank all of you for your continued support in my blog.
Until the next post,
With love and support,