Hump? It’s Hump Day?… That’s right Readers, it is HUMP DAYYYY! *insert Jen’s favorite camel! 😛
I hope everyone enjoyed my post yesterday and you got yourself a loaf of bread because who doesn’t love carbs?
Today, I want to discuss a little bit about communication as it plays a significant role in our everyday lives.
Communication is an absolute skill we are constantly working on to improve. Whether it is communicating with our family and friends, relationship with our significant others or in our current workplaces.
Even more so, knowing your level of communication is important as it helps us learn about ourselves and what we can do to improve our skills.
Just like you, I have put much effort into learning how to be a better communicator. As I mentioned in one of my earlier posts, “Being Disrupted,” non-verbal communication is 55% body language, 38% tone, and 7% words spoken. Because I am not much of a talker, I’ve learned to master as much as I can being a non-verbal communicator.
I can’t even tell you how many people read me like a book cover. My facial expressions could tell a thousand stories. Other times, it’s literally just my face 😛 Yes, my resting bitch face can be strong. I’m sorry. I am also not a good liar and I like to keep real and raw as much as possible.
I try to my best to watch how I react to certain things, the way I say things and what comes out of my mouth so others do not take it the wrong way. A lot of it has to do with priding myself over being an empathetic. I like to take a step back and relate to others and be in their shoes. That’s probably why I’m a good reader of others too.
When I can’t read someone, it’s usually because they’re trying to read me.
Anyways, I think when an individual realizes or is aware communication is one of their weakest skills, it could be a step in the right direction to learning how to be a better communicator. You can’t better yourself if you don’t recognize the problem or issue.
Keep in mind, for every person you come across who have poor communication skills, they often teach you a lesson about yourself and how you communicate. Never take someone’s poor communication skills as a waste of time. They have a chance to improve as much as you do.
I have spent a great deal of time around others who have poor communication skills. I have addressed issues of communication to help better them but ultimately at the end of the day, it is their choice on whether they will choose to improve.
I have come across some people who are aware of being bad communicators, claim they would work on it and continue not passing on information or assuming.
Assuming is the worst part of miscommunication. Assuming others can read your verbal or non-verbal communication is dangerous. It can start disagreements, arguments, fights, etc. All of the above.
Try your best to not assume.
More recently, I have realized how frustrated I used to be when there was a lack of communication between myself and others. More in particular to the workplace; I’m sure in some way you could relate or maybe even a lot of ways.
I said I used to be; now I’ve learned to take a moment to myself and try to explain before reacting quickly. However, the one thing that still gets me sometimes or I suppose, makes me wonder: if you are aware you are not a great communicator, is it something you’re really trying to work on it? Or is it just an excuse?
I wouldn’t necessarily say claiming you’re a bad communicator gives you a pass to continue on being a bad communicator. Does that make sense?
We should continue learning on how to be better communicators. As I said, its an essential skill to practice for everyday situations. We communicate with others on various platforms: in person, on the phone, via text, DMs, IG photos, Facebook comments, etc. The list can go on.
Share a story with me about a time where you’ve had to face someone who had poor communication skills. Tell me how you felt about the other person and yourself in the situation.
I’m sure I’ll come back around to this post again and repost to include elaborate experiences I have had with miscommunications. Consider this more of an introduction and a “food for thought” to carry on today.
I put out a tweet yesterday regarding communication which is why I wanted to discuss this topic. As mentioned, I have found myself being around bad communicators and the issues revolving around miscommunications have become redundant.
Yesterday was the first time where I just couldn’t bring myself to react and be frustrated as I used to be when there was a lack of communication. As I just said, it becomes redundant. So instead, I took a step back and thought to myself, if they claim they’re going to better their communication skills, they need stick to their word and find it in themselves to improve.
What do you guys think? Is there a limit to how many times you can help someone be a better communicator or come up with strategy on how to communicate better? Is it something they need to learn on their own? Let me know what you guys think.
Enjoy the rest of this Hump Day!
Until the next post,
With love and support,