Happy Tuesday Everyone! It’s Taco Tuesday and I can’t wait to have tacos tonight with my baby! 🙂 Taaaccoooo Tuessssdayyy!
Today’s blog is dedicated to a new segment that I’m starting called “Being Quoted.” Every now and then I will post a quote I came across and give you my take on what I think it means. Please feel free to reach out and express your perspective as well.
Today’s quote is: “Don’t let your loyalty become slavery. If they don’t appreciate what you bring to the table, let them eat alone.“
I bet when you read that quote, you felt it. In some way; the vibe, an experience, a flashback, whatever – you felt it.
Let me tell you something about my previous experiences with loyalty. For the most of my life, I have always been the loyal one; to anything and everything. I say “most” because I too have a past. Whether it was family, friends or relationships, I always ended being a slave rather than receiving any type sense of value in return. I felt unappreciated for the longest time.
And now… my circle is small enough that I no longer have to question anyone’s loyalty to me and they don’t have to question my loyalty to them. I have an exception or so but it’s been a learning experience more-or-less.
I had the utmost loyalty to my family. I used to tell people my family meant everything to me and now, it’s dissolved because of the shit-talking and the lack of acceptance of who I am and/or what I chose to do with my life. It took a toll on me and I don’t need that.
It was expressed to my face all the time as if they were interested in what I was doing with my life but when I wasn’t there, they turned around and talked about me like I had no purpose whatsoever. I was oblivious when I was a kid. Water became more fulfilling than how thick blood was. It’s unfortunate but I’d rather have a handful of loyal family members than a ton of disloyal family members.
Loyalty and relationships – you could say I have came a long way to get that. So I’ll make this short and simple. After being lied to, played, cheated on, more than once, I finally understood my value. And in some ways, I wish I could’ve left these fuckers sitting at the table sooner, eating horse shit by themselves but everything happens for a reason.
Despite how many disloyal people I came across, I’d be lying to myself if I said I didn’t have a past either. I mean, we all have, right? Big or small. But it means more if you have a conscience about it. The times I was ever disloyal, I felt guilty because I knew it wasn’t right. And that’s saying more than those who can continuously lie and deceive.
There is an aspect of my life where that quote is now resonating with me. I’m not far off from letting others sit at the table to eat alone. I’ve given so much of my time and energy and I’m still not appreciated for what I have done. I don’t really look for it but I subconsciously notice when it’s not there.
And of course, someone can tell you how much they value you but their actions say a different thing. It screams “I’m only telling you this because I need something from you and it’s convenient to say it at this time but I’ll forget about it tomorrow after I would have gotten what I wanted already.”
If you ever start to see/feel my analogy in your lifetime; you let them fools eat alone. Let them try to make their own meals and see how that turns out for them. I bet you they’ll starve and maybe they’ll think twice about the people around them who do and have done a lot for them.
What do you think when you read that quote? How does or has it resonate with your experiences? Let me know!
I hope you all enjoy this Taco Tuesday! If you’re getting tacos and margaritas tonight, turn up!
If there are any quotes you want me to share and give perspective on, please let me know. I would love to.
Until the next post,
With love and support,