Hello Readers! I’m sorry if I’ve been a little hiatus lately. As I said last week, I have been a busy bee. But I’m excited to say that I will be going on a mini get-a-way this weekend. “To where?” you might ask. VEGAS. I’m going back to VEGAS. Tony and I are going back to VEGAS.
Tony and I will celebrating our 3-year anniversary this weekend in Sin City! We are so ready for drinks in our hands, poolside laying, and being lounging Bears.
A side note other than celebrating our anniversary, this is probably the first time in a long time that I have ever felt comfortable to be out in the sun with a bathing suit on and I just want to take advantage of soaking it all up.
In lieu of our anniversary coming up, I wanted to share a quote with all of you and go into my perspective of how I resonated with it and maybe it will resonate with you as well.
Here is the second quote of the “Being Quoted” segment: “You can be in a relationship for two (2) years and feel nothing; you could be in a relationship for two (2) weeks and feel everything. Time is not a measure of love.“
In life, I feel as though we get so caught up in the concept of “time.”
“We have to graduate college by this ‘time.'”
“We must have our careers by this ‘time.'”
“I have to find my one true love and get married by this ‘time.'”
“We have to buy our house before this ‘time.'”
“I have to have kids by this ‘time.'”
“I am running out of ‘time.'”
I learned several years ago to not use time as a measurement. Now we don’t necessarily want to waste time but we shouldn’t have to use time to measure what we think we need to get done in life or have it hold us back from moving forward.
When it comes to relationships especially toxic and comfortable relationships, we use time as in excuse to stay around longer than we need to.
I can tell you and in some ways you could probably relate: I was in a long-term relationship with someone I thought I was suppose to marry despite the infidelities I ran into with that person. I stayed around because I used time to measure the reason why we should continue to stay together.
And I later realize that we were falling off the edge of the world on the opposite ends of each other and that there was a line I finally crossed where time felt like it was being wasted. It was done and there was no turning back.
I later on met the love of my life. Before Tony and I made it official, we were dating exclusively for nearly 6 months. I felt every piece of connection between us. My soulmate and a best friend within.
I could recall having a conversation with Florence, my best friend about wanting to tell Tony I loved him but feeling like maybe it was too soon. Again, here we go with using “time” as a measurement of love. I didn’t want to scare him away.
One of the worst feelings you could ever experience is when you tell your partner you love them for the very first time and they don’t reciprocate the same feelings. I think girls feel it more than guys though. Wouldn’t you agree?
I would substitute telling Tony “I love you” with “I adore you” and I felt dumb because I knew he knew. And I knew he refused to say it before I did. So you know what… I fucking told him I loved him first. And to this day, I will never stop telling him I love him because… well, I fucking love him.
It goes to show that it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone. Sometimes you just know. Lauren Conrad once said and now it’s used by so many people: “Love is not a maybe thing. You know when you love someone.”
I couldn’t agree more. Never let time be the reason you stay with a person. Be expressive in how you feel.
What are your thoughts on the quote? Do you agree? Let me know.
It’s a vibe today. We’re half way through the week. Stay in good spirits my Readers. I will keep you updated with my Vegas trip this weekend if you follow me on IG.
Until the next post,
With love and support,