Being in California (Will Probably Cost You an Arm and a Leg) – Part I

Happy Friday Eve Readers! We are almost to Friday and can I just say: I’m so excited for the upcoming holiday season. As soon as Halloween hits, it’s on! But we can save this conversation as we get closer to Halloween.

Today, I wanted to share my thoughts on living in California. I’ve been going in circles in my thoughts and feelings about determining the cost of the living and accepting it for what it is.

I live in North Park for those who know San Diego very well. If you know the vibe, it’s all about being part of a close community, creative artistic people, aesthetics, great eateries, bars, etc. I love North Park. When I moved out with Tony, we both knew this is where we wanted to be. We wanted to be in walking distance of great eateries and those vibes that took us back to when we were 22, 23, 24, etc.

But in living together and looking at the overall picture of what we want vs. what we need, living in the neighborhood we wanted became less important. We began focusing on what became more efficient for the both of us and how we made our home together.

They say, it’s the people who the make the home an actual home as opposed to the home looking like a home. Does that make sense?

We discovered this early on. When we were living apart, we did things like have “Poke Wednesday” together where we would go eat poke on Wednesday nights and watch Youtube videos together in bed. When we moved in, we started off continuing Poke Wednesdays. But as those Wednesdays went on, we started doing other things.

We found that not eating out, saving a little, having a home-cooked meal, being able to make time to go to gym in the day became more important to us. And that’s what matters the most.

Moving forward, we started to realize the things we really wanted and what would be more efficient to us.

In San Diego, you’re starting to see more apartments being built up as opposed to homes. Apartment units that are less spacious but consists of a washer and dryer, having your own private patio and a ton of amenities – pool, gym, theaters, lounge areas with games and tv, free wifi, etc. This is becoming the “norm.” But of course it comes at a price.

Everything to comes at a price. If you didn’t know this:

  • The average cost of buying a home in San Diego is currently $626,000 which gives us an average monthly mortgage of $2,848.
  • The average cost to rent a studio in San Diego is currently $1,413/a month.
  • The average cost to rent a one-bedroom is currently $1,564/a month.
  • The average cost to rent a two-bedroom is currently $2,030/a month.
  • The average cost to rent a three-bedroom is currently $2,923/a month.

What blows my mind even more though is the fact that a lot of places that you choose to rent require you to meet a threshold in income. And the threshold usually takes two people to meet.

I’ve looked at homes outside of California as well to get a better idea and it has made me consider moving – it’s crazy ridiculous.

But despite those facts, I’ve learned to accept it for what it is. This is what the market is. We pay to play to live.

As so long as I’m still in California, I’m going to accept the cost of living. I have a partner to hold my hand and we make up our home together. We will get through it together. Whether it’s 1,000 sq.ft or 500 sq.ft – we will make it work.

My advice to those trying to move to California, prepare yourself. Do a little research before you decide to move yourself out. It’s going to take more than individual to pick up and move your belonging over here.

This post will actually be a two-parter. I have a story to share with you about a person who made the attempt to live in San Diego but realized they couldn’t afford it after only being here a month.

Thanks for reading my post today. Hope you have a great rest of your day. Ending Part I right here.

Until the next post,


Relatable + Empathetic (2019)

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